Sunday, January 30, 2011

Hopefully 3rd time's a Charm!

I can’t believe how long it’s been since I have last blogged. I guess time has been going by fast or something. Maybe it’s just because kindergarten uses up a lot of my energies  and blogging just sounds like more work after a long day of Kindergarten.
I’m usually not a very open person when it comes to certain things, but I think I would feel better if I just shared some of the things that have been going on in our lives recently.
For the past year Kory and I have been trying to get pregnant and we have actually been successful twice. The problem is, is that I have not been able to stay pregnant. Back in April I was pregnant for 5 weeks and had a miscarriage. At the time I just brushed it off because I was not far along and I knew that we had only been trying for a few months. We kept trying and trying and got pregnant again in November. Which we were really excited about and the timing seemed perfect. I knew it was possible to miscarry again so we tried not to get too excited. We went to the doctor when I was 7 weeks and everything looked good and we saw it’s heartbeat. Meanwhile I’m feeling really good about everything and hoping that things will continue going well. (I did have one concern and that was that I had and still have a cold/cough that has literally lasted me 2 and a half months.) Just when I started feeling like nothing bad was going to happen, we went back to the doctor for a 10 week appointment and my biggest fear happened. The doctor was doing an ultrasound and was not talking. I could tell right away he was looking for a heartbeat. I couldn’t see it and neither could he. For some reason “you” just never think things like this will happen to “you.”
Anyway, to say the least, I had a procedure done on Friday to help the miscarriage along. I never realized how difficult something like this can be and I have A LOT more sympathy for people who have gone through similar experiences. We are trying to stay positive about all of this, and we are going to continue trying to start our family.
Sometimes it is hard to have the face-to-face conversations about this sort of stuff. So if you were wondering about how our baby making is coming along, this should give you a little bit of an update.
Even though this has been a hard time for the both of us, we are grateful for the love that our Heavenly Father continues to show us in our lives. We are grateful for the blessings that we do have and we look forward to the time that we will be able to be parents.

22 comments:

Jilly Bean said...

Marianne I love you and find your perspective and optimism very admirable. I'm sure what you went through was far more painful than words can describe so know that prayers are coming your way. Lots of love!

The Tengelsens said...

Marianne,

I am so sorry. Thanks for sharing and being open about it. I think that it gives people like me a better perspective. Please let me know if there is anything I can do.

Sophia said...

Oh marianne thank you for sharing. you are so brave and i appreciate so much hearing your story. you are such a strong woman of faith and i admire you.
i think there is peace that comes from sharing our struggles and we feel less alone.

Kelsi said...

Marianne, my heart is breaking! I too just went through a miscarriage and after reading your post I strangely enough, felt better. You are so positive and even though things are hard, you are making it through. Thank you for posting this! Let me know if there is anything I can do.

Chels said...

Marianne, I am so sorry. We will keep you guys in our prayers.

Ty and Ash Sorensen said...

Marianne... you are so strong.. I could not imagine a miscarriage... Ty and I have been trying for 2.5 years to start out family, so I kind of know what you are going through:( and it's the worst feeling ever! I admire you for being so open! If I can help at all please let me know! :) I hope 3rd time is the charm for you too!!

Val Murphy said...

I'm sorry you've had to go through all of that Marianne. Life gets rough sometimes but you're hanging in there and being such a great example to all of us. Things will work out and you and Kory will be amazing parents. Love you.

Jennifer said...

marianne thanks for sharing. i know how hard it is to be open about things that are so personal. please let me know if there is anything that i can do for you. and i truly hope that the 3rd time is a charm as well!

Lindsey Hegehorst said...

Good luck with everything we will keep thinking of you two!

Ann Mitchell said...

So sorry. The Lord loves you!

Tyler and Erin said...

What a strong woman you are! I haven't dealt with this experience personally but working in the field I do I've been a part of these terrible experiences. I often ask myself why "this" couple or "that" couple has to go through such a loss and I have found that these couples I work with are the absolute strongest and most amazing couples I know. I admire people like you so much. Lots of love!

~*Whitney*~ said...

Im sorry to hear about this marianne! I totally know what you are going through! I had two miscarriages before i got pregnant with the twins. keep your head up and know that it will happen when it is suppose to happen! Hey maybe you will get twins! :) p.s I had to have some drug help to get them lol :)

Allison and Mason: said...

Oh Marianne. I'm so sorry and thank you for sharing. I will put you guys in my prayers. That would be SO hard.

Lindsey Bench said...
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Lindsey Bench said...

Marianne,

I am so sorry to hear about your losses. Thanks for sharing. From recent experiences of my own, I have learned that when we share our burdens and heartaches with others, they are able to grieve with us and carry part of our burden so that we don't feel it is much. I think as women that is one of our greatest gifts. I hope you feel that and are strengthened to know of all the people who care about you and Kory!

Leslie said...

So sorry to hear you have had to go through such a hard thing. My heart goes out to you. You both are wonderful & the Lord will bless.

Mr & Mrs Hilton said...

Marianne, I am so sorry to hear about this. I appreciate you sharing. You are amazing and you are in my thoughts.

Nelly said...

We love you both so much!!! We will keep you in our prayers, you guys are the most amazing people and a great couple! Bub says, keep up the hard work!!! Love ya!

Aaron and Rachel said...

Marianne,
I am so sorry. I hope things workout well for you guys really soon! I will keep you and your little family in my prayers. In the mean time you are a wonderful example of optimism! I think you are great!!!

Jessica said...

I hope the 3rd time is the charm as well! Keep up your positive attitude, we will be sure to keep you in our prayers as well!

Kimberly said...

I cannot imagine! Thank you for sharing so we can have you in our prayers.

Robinson said...

so sad to read your blog. But if its meant to happen then it will. But you might want to consider though,that it may be gods plan that you adopt a child in need of loving parents rather than have your own. I know we all want to have our own, but there are children out there who dont have the love you can offer and who are desperate for it. My aunt had similar problems to yourself and in the end she adopted a baby girl. God thanked her by making her pregnant, unexpectedly, thus giving two children a happy home. Just something to consider. I hope all is well with you. God Bless.